secret child

I met a lovely man after a bad 10yr relationship, after a while he told me he had a gf, said he was trying to end it with her, i fell pregnant & he decided to stay with his gf, he pays maintenance and visits once a month if he can make it, i have recently found out he has lied to me about his surname which i included on our daughters birth certificate, i now know everything about him, do i confront him or should i try to trace his parents and let them know or should i leave it to him, he has 3 sons to previous relationships, our child is 2yrs old now and i thought he would've told his parents by now.

Edinmum wrote:

I met a lovely man after a bad 10yr relationship, after a while he told me he had a gf, said he was trying to end it with her, i fell pregnant & he decided to stay with his gf, he pays maintenance and visits once a month if he can make it, i have recently found out he has lied to me about his surname which i included on our daughters birth certificate, i now know everything about him, do i confront him or should i try to trace his parents and let them know or should i leave it to him, he has 3 sons to previous relationships, our child is 2yrs old now and i thought he would've told his parents by now.

Hello

I feel you might need to speak to the farther again and maybe this time in sayuing you feel deep down that his parents need to know that they have anothjer grad child as in the long run they will find out but Maybe it's time now you makde the next move in doing this. and seeing if he will do this for himself or you go straight to them yourself. But Here I am not telling you what do do just some sound advise it is up to you nad only you in how and what you decide to do. But please bare in mind, you need to do what you feel you need to do even if it might upset some people along the way.

All The Best.

Vas Andreas x